Embracing Healing: Letting Go of the Urge for Revenge
When it comes to self-healing, one profound thread we often encounter is the yearning for revenge against those who've inflicted pain and suffering upon us. In my work in mental health, therapy, and coaching in my own life and the lives of my clients, I've traversed this, often, tumultuous terrain and emerged and gained a newfound perspective on forgiveness and self-compassio
How the hell do I stop my negative self-talk?!
Negative self-talk can be a real bummer to your mental well-being and self-esteem. We're all guilty of it from time to time but we don't have to just put up with it. It will take a bit of time and effort but, fortunately, there are various strategies you can implement to reduce your negative self-talk and build your self-confidence. Here are some effective techniques you may like to try some of the following:
Why should I make taking care of my mental health a higher priority?
It can be easy to put off taking greater care of your mental health and your mind can come up with all sorts of reasons, excuses, and justifications not to do so:
I'm tired
I don't have time
It's too much effort
It takes too long
I have other more urgent things to do
I would have to sacrifice XXXX
Other things feel more important and essential
etc etc...
To overcome all that avoidance thinking….
Making self kindness a daily priority
We learn how kindly to speak to and treat ourselves by how kindly we were spoken to and treated as we grew up.
If there was little or no kindness directed at you during those formative years they can end up forming a template and foundation for how you treat yourself through life.
It can be a really hard habit to break.
Why I make my mental wellness a high priority
There was a time when I would have given in to those messages and the urge to skip a day. I would tell myself "oh just one day won't hurt".
It's absolutely true. Missing one day won't actually hurt me. But what it can end up doing it starting a downward spiral that I have no desire to explore again.